Posts by jbkrisle

Anything Is Possible

Posted by on May 13, 2016 | 0 comments

W1936380_10209068165529186_1203501228310202190_nho knew that I would transition from nonprofit consultant to nonprofit founder?

Who knew that I would enter the addiction recovery industry, wide-eyed and naive, and that it would become my passion?

Who knew that in my late-50s I would take an unexpected very sharp turn to the left and change my career path completely?

Not me. Not me. Not me.

And yet, here I am, surrounded by real life heroes every single day – addicts in recovery – some of the most resilient, kind, courageous and sincere people I’ve ever known. And together we are changing lives and saving lives.

Visit our website at 10000beds.org to learn more about our addiction scholarships and the amazing treatment professionals and facilities we work with!

If you are interested in booking me as a speaker, please contact me directly at jean@10000beds.org and let’s talk! My presentations remain based in motivational topics, but expand with new life experiences every year! How exciting is that?!

My new favorite presentation is based on my soon-to-be-published book: In The Shower. Watch for it! I talk about the crazy places we can experience inspiration or AH HA moments, the importance of self-care, the real definition of success, the power of one, the leadership gene in all of us, and the reality that anything is possible.

See you soon!12923323_10209423046280983_4557455249999223668_n

 

Jean

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There Comes A Time

Posted by on Aug 21, 2015 | 0 comments

adieuThere comes a time when we all need to look at our lives and simplify. For me, that time is now.

The Resource Tank has been my bread and butter for many years. It launched my speaking career, connected me with clients, and provided me a respected base to call my “business home”. I will forever be grateful.

Yes, that means what you think it might. The Resource Tank is quietly fading into the sunset, but this redhead is enthusiastically bursting into the limelight. In my world simplifying seems to always morph into new chaos.

My goal is to continue speaking, but my focus has evolved beyond leadership to include the reality of career ups and downs, and how every single thing that happens in your career matters. Everything Matters. In life, in business, in family. The little things, the big things, the things no one knows about but you. Everything. And this matters, it’s the end of an era for me in many ways.

And so, it’s with love, respect, and gratitude that I close one chapter in my life to open another. My newest venture 10,000 Beds, Inc. will launch on September 1st, 2015. If you’re reading this, you are one of the few in the know. (Lucky you!)

10,000 Beds is a registered 501c3 nonprofit organization working with partner treatment facilities across the United States to identify and award 10,000 scholarship treatment beds by 2020.

Our goal is to provide help through these donated scholarship beds to addicts who need help and want help, but can’t afford the cost of residential treatment. We have received overwhelming support and positive responses from everyone we’ve talked to about this effort…and we haven’t even launched!

10,000 Beds is a sister company to Helping Recovery, my primary marketing business. We work with clients who need treatment and facilities who can provide treatment and we put the two together. It’s an emotional, rewarding, all-encompassing work. And we are passionate about it.

Addiction has touched our family and I am certain it’s touched yours, or someone you know. If you ever need help finding the best treatment center for someone, we are the people to call. We are experts. We do this every day, all day. We care and we will do whatever we can to help. You can reach us at 801-875-2821 or jean@helpingrecovery.org.

Am I still available to speak? You bet! And I’ll still be crazy busy. I just won’t be working under the moniker of The Resource Tank. My office won’t change, my java mug won’t change, my desk won’t change, but my business name has changed.

So, I will bid TRT a fond farewell, and carefully tuck this blog in the cloud for safekeeping. Because as we all know, nothing ever really goes away anymore, it simply goes dormant and becomes an out of sight piece of our past.

Thank you for supporting me all these years…now come find me at 10000Beds.org or HelpingRecovery.org! There’s a lot going on in the world of recovery and we are honored to be part of it.

Speaking to audiences about the power of change, the reality that everything matters, the experiences of life that mold great leaders, and working with people to help them rediscover a clean and sober life keeps me on a personal “high” every single day. I’m blessed, grateful and more excited than ever.

My career has been a roller coaster of awesome experiences. I wouldn’t change a thing. And that’s the message I need to deliver, I want to deliver, and that audiences love to hear. It’s all good, it all matters, and it all leads us to our ultimate calling and destiny.

So off I go…thanks again!

(Oh, and that whole “simplify” idea…it will never happen in my lifetime, but it IS my reoccurring daydream.)

And now. Adieu.

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BREAK!

Posted by on Apr 14, 2015 | 0 comments

pool-break.3We all need a break at one time or another. Today I needed a break so badly I had to remove myself from any proximity to technology: computer was powered down, iPhone was turned off and left at home. And I couldn’t get into my little guacamole-colored Subaru fast enough. Thankfully I am mature enough to not screech out of the driveway, but the thought did cross my mind. It was as if I was escaping some terrible threat to my sanity safety.

In reality, I was maxed out. I had hit the wall. I needed quiet, space, food, and a break. This happens to all of us, but what do we do about it? I stumbled upon this great article that shows clearly the warning signs of someone who needs a break. On a scale of 1 – 10, I was approaching total insanity. How about you?

So, TAKE A BREAK and read through this great article from LifeHack. It’s about 10 WARNING Signs You Definitely Need A Break and it’s a wake up call from that much-needed nap you aren’t taking.

We all need a break at one point or another, but perhaps you need one NOW. You may say that you are absolutely too busy to take a break or there is no way that you can let go right at the moment. These are both signs that you need a break TODAY.

If you find yourself saying any of the following, it’s time to take a day off and turn off the computer and all of your notifications and get away.

1. There are Only 24 Hours in a Day

Are you one who says that there is never enough time in the day to get everything done? Are you running around somewhat like a chicken with its head cut off? If you continue at this pace, you will always be behind. You are putting tons of items on your plate and only a few items are getting completed.

2. Your Social Life is Non-Existent

If this phrase rings true, then you definitely need a break. It has been said that not spending enough time with friends and family is one of the top regrets of people on their deathbeds. Do you want that to be you?

If you are missing your children’s events, missing momentous occasions from your best friends, and your family has no idea where you are at, then a break is long overdue.

3. A Change Throws You for a Loop

Are you flexible? Do you hate change? Change is what should bring you opportunities and a chance to see life in a new perspective. However, if you are continually trying to be in charge of every single aspect of your life without allowing room for change and absolutely detest when someone asks to change a meeting time, then you definitely need to take a deep breathe and schedule a day off.

4. You Have Dinner at the Office

Does ordering in for dinner and having it delivered to the office ring a bell? Or what about eating in front of your computer telling yourself that this last deck must get out tonight? If you cannot take 30 minutes to de-stress and eat in a peaceful (note: mobile and work free) environment, then you must start to ask why and make yourself distance away from work. Lastly, schedule a day to disconnect. No email. No calls. No thinking about the to-do lists.  A day to yourself.

5. The Gym Hasn’t Seen You in Months

You have not had any injuries. You used to be at the gym five out of the seven days a week, and now you are so busy working from sunrise to sunset. If anytime fitness was closer, then you would try to squeeze in a twenty minute workout, but it is a balancing act between sleep and working out.

6. Phone Calls Anger You

Hearing the ring of your telephone just sends an overall sense of more work. The words “it never ends” continues to go through your mind. Work is constantly calling or if it is your best friend that you have not talked to in months is calling, you sadly slide the notification to decline. Sighing and saying, “One day, it will be better.” I’m here to tell you that it’s time to take a break and realize that a phone call may just be what you need from your best friend.

7. What Used to Bring You Joy is Now A Hindrance

That hobby and job that you once loved seems more like an obligation than something that makes you smile. You regret every item that has to deal with the job. It feels as if you are chained to it and cannot escape. As my friend AJ Leon said so eloquently, “I have met many entrepreneurs that leave a job they feel is a prison, only to find that now the door is locked from the inside and they are holding the key.” No more smiles and happiness.

8. You Answer Emails as You Go To Bed and Right When You Wake-up

Are you answering work emails in your bed at night and then checking your email immediately upon waking? Taking work with you to bed is a recipe for a high stress lifestyle. Having it by your side 24/7 is a recipe for disaster. You are always thinking about work and adding it to your to-do list, which is not giving you any time to yourself. It’s time for a break.

9. You Have a Quad Americano Three Times a Day

Does your barista know your orders based on the look that is on your face when you walk? Do you have a morning, afternoon, and evening order all with at least four shots of espresso? Maybe it’s time to step back and realize that all the caffeine in the world is not going to make your work go away.

10. You Are Never Home

Your roommates don’t believe you exist. They get the rent check but never actually see you. Your house looks impeccable because you have not had enough time to spend there to make it dirty. You have just a couple of groceries in your pantry, and the refrigerator is empty with the exception of condiments that have a two year expiration date. You are literally home to sleep and wake up early to do it all over again. It’s an unsustainable lifestyle. You live and breathe work.

It’s time for a break if you can check off one of these items. It’s time for a week vacation if more than two apply to you. If you have all ten, then you need to take a break, go on vacation, and reexamine this lifestyle because you only have this one and is this how you want to live?

Want a break? Take one! I did, and I’m feeling better.

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April Fools Day, Tony the Tiger, and Goalsetting

Posted by on Apr 1, 2015 | 0 comments

tonyIt is a quiet spring morning that began with a bowl of sugar frosted flakes. As I sat on the patio earlier today and enjoyed the fresh air, I was calm, mellow even. The day ahead loomed bright and productive. Nothing could break my positive mood.

Unless that nothing snuck up on my subconscience mind and caught me by surprise. My ohm moment was broken with a quiet whisper. There was a moment when the image of Tony the Tiger tickling my ear with his cold nose flashed across my mind, and then all I heard was a whisper in my head, “You are NOTHING without me.”

I set down the bowl of sugar frosted flakes. I checked behind me and carefully rubbed my forefinger along the curve of my ear, inspecting for the damp residue of a cold nose. Nothing.

“What?!?, ” I thought very loudly in my head.

A different whisper this time, “You should eat NOTHING but healthy food.”

This time I blinked, shook my head and glared at the bowl in front of me. It was me, talking to me.

Dammitohell. It’s April 1st! This is the day I am starting my healthy food and daily exercise lifestyle. How could I forget, especially with Tony the Tiger himself whispering sweet nothings inside my head.

I grabbed the bowl and downed the remaining sugary flakes, now a little soggy.

My own thoughts battled the whispers, “Fine. April Fools. The joke’s on you. I had sugar for breakfast. So there. What are you going to do about it?”

And then all I heard was the same whisper in my head, “You are NOTHING without me.”

My mind danced around that whisper for a full minute until it hit me: that wasn’t just me talking to me, that was a warning cry.

I am an addict. A sugar addict. It wasn’t Tony in my head, it was my own body reminding me that I had set a goal and was already failing. Day One. Hour One. The joke was on me.

I took a deep breath and refocused. I could already feel the sugar blues descending, but I jumped out of my chair, tossed the evidence bowl and spoon in the dishwasher, and did a little jig… Happy April Fool’s, it’s still Day One, but it’s Hour Two and I am winning!

It’s important to set goals, build in self-monitoring reminders (I can’t guarantee Tony the Tiger in your head, but reciting positive affirmations, writing down your goals, setting small goals that will lead to the end goal, etc. will make a big difference), and never forget that small failures may happen along the way, but they are only speed bumps.

What I Learned Today (WILT): The important thing is to not let temporary setbacks knock you off your path to success. Shake it off, and move forward.

I’m a professional speaker. If I can do that, I can do this.

And even more to the point, I work with addicts and recovering addicts every day. If they can do that, I can do this.

There are so many things I’ve accomplished in my life that are so much more difficult that giving up sugar. Why is this so hard?

And then I remembered that whisper, “You are NOTHING without me.” Addiction sucks. And this is the message it delivers, every day, all day.

I am going to turn the joke around and stop listening.

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New Year, New Me, New You

Posted by on Feb 8, 2015 | 0 comments

Stop_the_World-300x270It’s almost Valentine’s Day and this post is about the new year. Someone is late (imagine me pointing my finger at myself).

Life certainly can be entertaining, can’t it? 2014 ended and 2015 started and I am just catching up. I am too old for the hamster wheel I’ve been on for the past 90 days! I’m sure you are familiar with the phrase, STOP THE WORLD, I WANT TO GET OFF! Well, it’s been my personal motto since mid-October 2014.

But I’m over that, and it’s a new year, a new me, a new you, and a new chance to evaluate, improve and succeed. Now that’s a course I want to stay on!

It dawned on me recently that I’ve been speaking professionally for nearly 40 years. That’s a long time. And the kicker is – I’ve been getting paid for it! But as good as I’m told I am, I knew I had not honed my skills to the level I want to achieve. And I wanted to be better, to really earn the money I was being paid to train and inspire and motivate others.

So I did some exploring, talked to a few friends, including the amazing Devin Thorpe, and discovered the National Speakers Association. After researching their reputation, their services, and their requirements…I discovered that I qualified for membership, and I signed up!

Today I attended my first NSA conference, and WOW! I have a lot to learn, a lot to do, and a lot of new friends. This is a picture of me with an old/new friend, Karen Petersen.IMG_0128

We’ve known each other for a long time, we even talk every day, but we had not met until lunch this afternoon. You might know Karen too…she is the female Australian voice of Siri and most GPS systems. Who knew!? (I’ll never be able to get mad at her again!)

I guess the message I want to share today is simple. There are ups and downs in life, but they don’t matter unless you let the down times knock you off course. I’ve been otherwise engaged for a few months, but I’m back, and I’m better than ever before. I’m honing my skills, I’m broadening my network, I’m seeing a successful 2015 ahead.

Sure. You’re right. It’s the 38th day of the new year…but who cares? I’m celebrating like it’s the first day!

Happy New Year…and let’s make it our best year ever! (Siri’s response? “That may be beyond my abilities at the moment.”)

I guess Siri has down days too.

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LBD Meets Coworkers: 10 Tips on Surviving the Office Holiday Party

Posted by on Dec 8, 2014 | 0 comments

Mixing Christmas and the OfficeWe’ve all been there. The dreaded company holiday party. Where Judy (think tailored beige suits and no makeup) suddenly transforms at the part-AY into Jud-AY in a very LBD (little black dress), 4 inch stilettos, 1-inch eyelashes, and sparkling foundation, and where Paul (think office nerd with horn-rimmed glasses) shows up in a beautifully tailored European suit with slicked back hair and dreamy eyes. Who knew!?

Don’t panic! There is a way to maneuver through the packed room of glitz and champagne without losing your sanity. And  I couldn’t have said it better, so please enjoy this blog entry originally posted at hitchedmag.com. This blog post was written by Diane Gottsman, a nationally recognized etiquette expert.

 10 Tips On Surviving the Office Holiday Party

Making conversation is the key to shining like a sparkly star at the office party. Chatting only with your spouse or your buddies from your department will earn you a lump of coal for a missed opportunity.

When you are stepping outside of your comfort zone and talking with people, you don’t see often or know very well, the art of conversation takes a little preparation. Here are a few tips to get ready for the office party or any other event where you’re mingling with a mixed crowd:

1. Show genuine interest. Make sure you’re paying attention to the other person by nodding your head, responding with related comments and asking questions. Don’t let them see that you are really studying how fast the buffet line is moving and counting the shrimp in the dwindling shrimp bowl.

2. Be aware of what your body language is saying. Face the person you’re talking to, slightly lean in and make eye contact. Use your facial expressions to show you are involved in the conversation. If your toes and hips are pointing away, it sends the message that you are planning your escape. 

3. Do your homework. Good conversation requires a little forethought. Have a few topics up your sleeve, avoiding politics, religion, office gossip or anything depressing. Sports, movies, food and plans for the holidays are good alternatives. It’s easy to make conversation with people you see every day—your job is to mix and mingle with those whom you are less familiar. 

4. Listen. If it were easy to follow this rule, we’d all be brilliant conversationalists. Many of us are so busy talking about ourselves—or thinking about what we’re going to say next while the other person is talking—that we fail to engage in real conversation. How many times have you been in a conversation where someone asked the same question that was just answered only minutes earlier? A good rule of thumb: Listen 60 percent of the time and ask questions the other 40 percent. 

5. Ask questions. Being a great conversationalist is not all about spewing an endless stream of stories or witticisms to amuse an audience. A question shows the other person you are interested in what they have to say and, ideally, they will answer your question and then ask a question in return. This “discovery” phase will hopefully lead to a common area of interest for you both to explore further and voila, a bond is forged. If you know a little something about the person—for example, if they have kids—start there. “How old are they? How is school going for them? Are they in any sports or activities? What are the hot toys for Christmas this year?” 

6. Team up with your spouse. While you shouldn’t stick to your spouse like glue, don’t abandon your spouse to fend for him or herself at the office party, especially if he or she doesn’t know anyone from your office very well. Work together. For example, if your husband is a football fan and you’re not, he can help break the ice with a fellow fan. Always introduce him to whomever you’re speaking with and include him in your conversation even if you have to bring him up to speed. 

7. Practice the art of excusing yourself from a monologue. We all know people who spout off at length on random topics, ignoring all signs of discomfort in others. If you’ve been trapped in the corner for 10 minutes listening to a guest drone on and on, jump in when the rambler takes a breath, “Well, you certainly know a lot about the company’s servers” or, “Sounds like you’ve really turned a corner with that lactose intolerance issue;” immediately followed by, “If you’ll excuse me I think I need to freshen my drink… nice chatting with you. Enjoy the rest of the party!” After freshening your drink, head for the other side of the room and strike up a new conversation with someone else. 

8. Do talk about the holidays. The fact that this is a holiday party lends itself to all kinds of discussion topics. “Are you traveling for the holidays?” “Have you done any holiday shopping/decorating yet?” “Do you know a good place to see Christmas lights this year?” 

9. Don’t talk about work. This is not the venue to complete a project or plan a client meeting for the following week. It is okay to mention upbeat news briefly, “Hey, I heard we had record sales last month!” but the holiday party is not the time to try to analyze departmental efficiencies. It’s definitely not the time or place to gripe about anything or anyone from work. 

10. Say thanks. Before leaving, be sure to thank both your boss and those who planned the party. And remember to thank your spouse for coming with you and being such a good sport throughout the evening. 

Remember that the festive atmosphere of the holiday party creates a great environment to connect with coworkers you’d like to get to know better. The ability to engage in conversation with a wide variety of people is a skill that will serve you well not only at the office holiday party, but throughout your career. 

Diane Gottsman, a nationally recognized etiquette expert, is the owner of The Protocol School of Texas, a company specializing in etiquette training for corporations, universities and individuals, striving to polish their interpersonal skills. You can reach Diane at 877-490-1077 or www.protocolschooloftexas.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @:www.twitter.com/DianeGottsman.

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The Attitude of Gratitude

Posted by on Nov 25, 2014 | 0 comments

Attitude-of-Gratitude_1024x1024Life doesn’t always make us want to say “thank you.” We have ups and downs, successes and failures. And sometimes things happen that simply don’t make any sense at all. I’ve just experienced something like this. And after a week or so of shaking my head and wondering, as the transition plan from one assignment to another is in the works, as I’ve spent way too many hours contemplating how this change will effect me and others, I’ve finally taken a deep breath, regrouped, asked myself some serious questions, and now I have only one main thought:

THANK YOU!

  • Thank you for forcing me to shift gears.
  • Thank you for being the catalyst that made me reevaluate my priorities.
  • Thank you for returning me to my family.
  • Thank you for reminding me that every ending is a new beginning.
  • Thank you for giving me the opportunity to work with amazing people on amazing programs.
  • Thank you for widening my eyes while broadening my experience.
  • Thank you for sharing your passion with me.
  • Thank you for all I’ve learned.
  • Thank you for this new start.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Sometimes our initial reaction to change is knee-jerk, simply because it’s new, it’s foreign, it’s life-changing. Or sometimes, our initial reaction is because we aren’t prepared, we haven’t been paying attention.

Ask yourself, am I paying attention? If your career seems to be sliding into autopilot, if you’ve become satisfied with the status quo, I would suggest an attitude of gratitude is needed. Sit up straighter, write bolder, think broader, and be more grateful!

The right attitude can change your life in ways you never could have expected.

Ask yourself, what is my attitude saying to others and doing to me?

Today, my attitude is one of gratitude. I hope yours is too.

Now, ask yourself, what am I grateful for today?

Start writing!

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Manager or Leader?

Posted by on Oct 31, 2014 | 0 comments

Are you a manager or a leader? There are numerous articles to be found on this topic. One I liked (maybe because of the fun graphic) can be found here.

To me, it’s simple: Leaders serve. They are about mission, team, and shared collaborative success. Managers manage. They are about tasks, control, and results.

Read through the article, it will help you determine if you are a natural born leader or a task-oriented manager. Both are necessary!

 

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Is Leadership in Your DNA?

Posted by on Sep 3, 2014 | 0 comments

I remember my mother telling me that I was a born leader. As the firstborn of three, I absolutely gained all the beneficial (and off-putting) traits of the oldest child. This 2013 article lists these enviable (?) traits very creatively. And all I can say is “Guilty as described”. Just ask my younger sis.

Leadership is more than being smarter, in charge, and entitled. And, no offense Mom, leadership isn’t in my DNA. I wasn’t born to lead. How about you? Do you feel that from the moment of your first breath, as you were being held upside down and struggled to look up, you were born to lead? Maybe you do.

Leaders are a unique brand of human. We are confident. We are good listeners. We are risk takers. And, yes, we are smart. But most important, we are willing to say “yes”. We are up to the task. There may be others around us who could do just as well (or better) than we can, but they didn’t raise their hand. We did.

In a recent Business Insider article, it’s stated this way, “Leadership isn’t a gift from birth. It’s the willingness to assume responsibility when others don’t.”

Leaders come in all shapes, sizes, and personality types. They may have been the firstborn, or not. They may be a redhead, blonde, or brunette. They may be male or female. They may tower above in height or intellect, or both. Or not. There is not a mold that leaders are made from. Every leader has their own unique qualities and perspective that are right for the situation at hand.

Being a leader at one moment, does not mean you’ll always be a leader. I’ve been a leader of organizations, groups, and clubs, but I’ve also learned from great leaders of organizations, groups, and clubs when I’ve recognized their strengths and chosen to follow. A successful leader never stops learning. It is critical that leaders continue to learn and grow.

Leaders cannot let egos or pride take over; they cannot stop listening to input from others. What they can do is learn to follow when a stronger leader appears, step up and make the final decision when they are the leader, and most important, they can empower and motivate others to follow their lead. Leaders are influencers. Their actions, words, and even thoughts, will influence others toward an identified goal. This is a great responsibility.

A true leader understands this. He owns it. He feels it in every fiber of his body.

Maybe leadership really is in your DNA after all?

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Lao Tzu Had It Right

Posted by on Aug 15, 2014 | 0 comments

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